Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

I've been dating my bf for 2.5 years but during the 1st year he was seeing another girl behind my back. I forgave him & believe he's been faithful since, but recently I saw emails from 2 years ago btw them and regret forgiving him. What should I do?

Like cheating, regretting a major decision is a difficult thing to bounce back from. I could go on and on about this but in the end, you have to take a look at yourself and be realistic.

If you still can't handle the fact he cheated on you, even a year and a half later, signs tell me you haven't fully forgiven him. In that case, it may be time to move on.

However, don't let your emotion fool you. Seeing those emails (you guys should REALLY get rid of those) could have just sparked flash images of pain and these feelings are messing with your state mind, causing this regretful behavior. 

I'd wait a few days and see if you feel any different. If you feel just as bad, it may be time to re-evaluate your position in the relationship.

What Is "Too Aggressive?"

What is your definition of being too aggressive? Are their different standards for men and women on what is considered an aggressive approach?

My thoughts on being aggressive: You know those car salesmen who always push for the sale, even though you told them you're just looking around - three times already? That's being too aggressive. Granted, it's their job but you get my point.

In the dating world, constantly pushing for some type of "deal" (phone number, email, date, sex, etc.) does not help your chances. In fact, contrary to belief, your chances decrease the more someone says no. I believe the standards DO NOT vary from men to women. It's all based on perception. Some people like a little aggression while others can do without it. 

A guy can be turned off by a woman who's constantly flirting with him and not picking up on the "uninterested" signal he's giving her just as much as a woman can be by a man.

On the Road This Week

This week, I'll be spending time in both NYC and DC! As a result, there won't be any videos this week but don't worry. I still have things to share with you. But first thing's first.

I'll be busy over the next two days but I WILL have availability the following days:

On Wednesday (6/16), I'll be in DC with a free day. If you'd like to set up a Free Consultation, let me know! Would love to see you. 

On Thursday (6/17), I'll be speaking at the #140conf in DC, with Founder of eFlirt expert and LoveNation co-host, Laurie Davis, on "The Brand of Love in the Real-Time Web." If you're in DC, you have to come see us and the entire cast of characters. You can register here.

I will be back in NYC that Friday (6/18), staying through the Monday (6/21). So if you're in NYC and would like to set up a meeting, shoot me an email.

Stay tuned throughout the week for new content!