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5 Ways to NOT Be Creepy

Don't be this guy.Editor's Note: This piece is by Nick Notas, our Boston Wingman Strategist and Confidence Coach. You can read more of his pieces at The Dating Specialist.

Once a woman has filed you under creepy, it’s damn near impossible to change her mind.

When meeting a woman, it’s important she’s comfortable because if she feels nervous, it’ll put her on the defensive.

That’s why I’m such a huge advocate of making the best first impression possible.

Most times, conveying you’re a normal guy is as simple as avoiding some common mistakes.

Below are five ways you can make sure your interactions start on the right foot.

8 Rules For Texting a Woman

Fail.Editor's Note: This piece is by Nick Notas, our Boston Wingman Strategist and Confidence Coach. You can read more of his pieces at The Dating Specialist.

As part of the dating process, you’re responsible for keeping in touch with her and making things interesting. Thankfully, this works in your favor.

Texting allows you to come up with witty and enticing responses from a safe location.

It’s easy enough to master and with some basic guidelines, you should be a pro in no time. Here are some simple points to remember when texting a girl you’re interested in.

Discipline of Dating: Stage 3 -- Figuring Out YOUR System

Now, it's time to put all the pieces together.Welcome to the Discipline of Dating series. If you haven’t read the introduction and did Stage 1 and Stage 2, read those before you continue.

Remember, this series is meant to give you ALL of the tools necessary to create dramatic results in your dating life.

Only one thing; you have to take action.

If you’ve been working on Stage 2, and modeling the success you’ve seen around you, you’ll be seeing some results already.

And you’re not even done with the process yet.

We are now going to focus on Stage 3 of the Wingman Model.

How to Flirt as a Woman

Are you flirtarded?These posts are based on the reality TV series, Tough Love: Miami. I don’t comment on what happened in the show. Instead, I talk about what women can learn from each episode’s theme. You can check out my previous series here.

If you missed other posts, check them out below:

Tough Love #1: How to Create A Positive First Impression
Tough Love #2: Dating in the Digital Age
Tough Love #3: Inner & Outer Beauty 
Tough Love #4: Flirting

Flirting is one of my favorite topics to talk about it. It’s fun, sexy and the difference between a spark fizzling or turning into a flame.

It’s just a shame there are so many people out there who are “flirtarded.”

Wednesday Wisdom: A Dating To-Do List

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Every Wednesday I will share a thought, message or quote that will be not only applicable in your dating life but also every other aspect of your life.

I had the pleasure of talking with Judi Huck, Community Manager of Producteev, an online task management tool.

We talk about if flirting had a to-do list, what it would look like. So after talking about video games, racing and boss battles, we finally came up with a solid list of things that I feel will help you.

Thanks to Judi for the write up.

Create Your Flirting To-Do List.

P.S. If you need a task management tool, I've been using Producteev for months for me and my team and it's honestly the best I've ever used.

Top 10 Thursday: Ways to Master Speed Dating

Every Thursday, I will put up a top ten list of awesomeness, with short descriptions and tips. Feel free to laugh, enjoy and pass them around.

Top 10 Ways to Master
Speed Dating

I regularly get questions about speed dating. I've run my own fair share of speed dating events and have seen a lot. You only have just a few minutes to make an impression so it's important you put your best foot forward. Here are my Top 10 tips to help you.

Top 10 Thursday: Ways To Touch Women

A future player.Every Thursday, I will put up a top ten list of awesomeness, with short descriptions and tips. Feel free to laugh, enjoy and pass them around.

"Top 10 Ways to
Touch Women"

People ask me what's the biggest mistake guys make when meeting women. Touching women is a close second to approaching women.

I tell my clients, "if you're not touching her, you're just having conversation."

If you wonder why you're always that guy in the "Friend's Zone," this may be the reason.

The only way to truly have her see you as more than a friend is to create a state that gets her to think about you romantically.

Flirting is the overall tool to do that and within flirting, touching is the most important factor.

Today, you are going to get 10 ways you can initiate natural contact, while showing her you're interested.

Tip Tuesday: How Guys Show Interest

A nice foliow up to last week's question.

Every Tuesday, we ask people from Team Wingman & Twitter what they would like me to talk about. It could be a general topic or a direct question. I’ll choose the best one and later that day, I’ll write something and give tips addressing that topic or question.

What does the man do to show he's interested? How do I know he isn't just being friendly?

It may come to a surprise -- or not -- but guys tend to act a little weird when they are interested.

They may get shy or nervous. They may smile a lot. They may even be a little sillier than normal.

Other than those things, they will typically do many of the same things I explained in last week's post. Guys will tease, compliment and be a little more touchy (poking, hugging, arm around shoulder / hips, playful pushing, etc.).

Another thing a guy will (read: should) do, is allude to a "potential future" with you. What I mean by that is he will invite you to things that are going on in his life -- or out on a date. Just because he may invite you to hang out with him and his friends, doesn't mean he's not asking you out.

While I don't think it's considered a date, it's still an opportunity to spend time with him under a low-pressure environment and still get to know him.

If you'd like your question answered on the blog, be sure to send a tweet to me or post a question to Team Wingman.

Modes of Attraction: Part 2 - Pathos

This is continuation of a three-part series discussing the three modes of attraction, playing off Aristotle’s Modes of Persuasion. Here, you’ll learn the different methods in which attraction is demonstrated.

Part 1: Ethos
Part 2: Pathos
Part 3: Logos

From Aristotle, the pathos mode of persuasion is an appeal to the audience’s emotions. When you think about people like, Tony Robbins, Brendon Burchard, Bill Clinton and Barack Obama, what these guys have in common is their ability to create a positive rapport to and engage a wide variety of people from all over the world. How they do this is by tapping into people’s emotions and creating a strong connection through mutual, relatable experiences.