How to Recover From A Breakup Like a Heavyweight Champ

How hard should it be to put this back together?I remember being back home in Boston for spring break, trying to make plans with my girlfriend to hang out when I got back on campus.

When she’s wasn’t having it, I knew something was up. 

That phone call ended with my 2nd devastating breakup in 4 years.

In college, at a time when I took everything for granted, I got sick (literally) and tired of letting myself down “because of a girl.”

And I wasn’t going to let a breakup have a negative effect in my life. I was only 21.

I decided I wanted to be so stable and secure in myself, that going through breakups wasn’t an issue anymore. I wanted to quickly move on, have a game plan and be more confident, ambitious and happier in as little time as possible. 

I no longer was going to put the outlook of my life in someone else’s hands. 

Since I love testing things more than most people out there, there were very interesting experiences that happened along the way.

How To Man Up For A Break Up

Don't you hate when this happens?As we shift gears to a new topic, I thought it would be VERY fitting to bring in another person's perspective on the topic of "break ups."

I've been getting a lot of requests about this topic and after spending time researching and planning, I have things I will share with you.

Think of this as part transition, part introduction. This article is by Robert Manni, author of The Guys' Guy's Guide to Love.

For more information about his book and his blog, you can check it out here.

Enter Robert...

Discipline of Dating: Stage 5 -- Contribution

Everyone needs a wingman.Welcome to the Discipline of Dating series. If you haven’t read the introduction and did Stage 1, Stage 2, Stage 3, and Stage 4 read those before you continue.

Remember, this series is meant to give you ALL of the tools necessary to create dramatic results in your dating life.

Only one thing; you have to take action.

These past few weeks, I’ve been working on giving you the best guide to help you with your dating life for free. 

Through a lot of the feedback I’ve received through Twitter and email, it’s clear that I’ve done a pretty good job.

*pat on the back*

The point of this was simple. I want to help everyone as much as I can and with readers spanning from Japan to the Cayman Islands, anyone who reads this would benefit.

And that is the last stage of development in this process -- contribution.

When you are in a position where not only have you helped yourself accomplish your goals but can also help others around you succeed, it’s a level few get to experience.

Discipline of Dating: Stage 4 -- Mastery -- Owning YOUR System

Own it and you'll be able to meet women anywhere.Welcome to the Discipline of Dating series. If you haven’t read the introduction and did Stage 1, Stage 2 and Stage 3, read those before you continue.

Remember, this series is meant to give you ALL of the tools necessary to create dramatic results in your dating life.

Only one thing; you have to take action.

Let’s face it. We ALL want to be “masters” of certain crafts. 

I do not use the phrase, “mastering attracting women,” because it makes women appear to be objects when I know a lot of readers here on this blog and the people I work with are looking for much MORE than objects.

Instead, I call it “owning your craft,” and in this case, you are “owning your system” of dating success.

But owning your system is a daunting challenge.

Discipline of Dating: Stage 3 -- Figuring Out YOUR System

Now, it's time to put all the pieces together.Welcome to the Discipline of Dating series. If you haven’t read the introduction and did Stage 1 and Stage 2, read those before you continue.

Remember, this series is meant to give you ALL of the tools necessary to create dramatic results in your dating life.

Only one thing; you have to take action.

If you’ve been working on Stage 2, and modeling the success you’ve seen around you, you’ll be seeing some results already.

And you’re not even done with the process yet.

We are now going to focus on Stage 3 of the Wingman Model.

Discipline of Dating: Stage 2 -- Replicating Success (Part 2)

Now, it's time to start trying out what you've learned.Welcome to the Discipline of Dating series. If you haven’t read the introduction and started Stage 1, read those before you continue.

Remember, this series is meant to give you ALL of the tools necessary to create dramatic results in your dating life.

Only one thing; you have to take action.

This article will focus on the third and final Action Item of Stage 2 of the Wingman Model towards dating success.

Stage 2 is all about finding success and modeling it in a way that you can make your own. 

Discipline of Dating: Stage 2 -- Replicating Success (Part 1)

Yes, you can be as smooth as James Bond.Welcome to the Discipline of Dating series. If you haven’t read the introduction and started Stage 1, read those before you continue.

Remember, this series is meant to give you ALL of the tools necessary to create dramatic results in your dating life.

Only one thing; you have to take action.

This article will focus on Stage 2 of the Wingman Model towards dating success.

Stage 2 is all about finding success and modeling it in a way that you can make your own. 

This will allow you to adapt strategies, acquire positive habits and develop your social awareness for opportunities that may come up.

Once you do all of the Action Items, you’ll be able to go to Stage 3.

Begin Stage 2.

Discipline of Dating: Stage 1 -- Knowing Yourself (Part 3)

The key to your progress.Welcome to the Discipline of Dating series. If you haven’t read the introduction and started Stage 1, read those before you continue.

Remember, this series is meant to give you ALL of the tools necessary to create dramatic results in your dating life.

Only one thing; you have to take action.

So you’ve made this far through Stage 1. Awesome! I’m sure your hungry to start making changes right way -- and we’ll get there soon.

But first, there is one more Action Item you need to take that will get the complete assessment you need to move forward.

Discipline of Dating: Stage 1 -- Knowing Who You Are (Part 2)

Which "you' are they seeing?Welcome to the Discipline of Dating series. If you haven’t read the introduction and started Stage 1, read those before you continue.

Remember, this series is meant to give you ALL of the tools necessary to create dramatic results in your dating life.

Only one thing; you have to take action.

Now that you have an understanding of who you and what your values are, let’s see if that’s what you project.

We go out with our clients to see how congruent they are with how they want to present themselves. As a strategist, this is where the breakthrough comes in for so many of my clients.

But, I can’t do that for everyone who is reading this, so we’re going to change it up a bit. 

Discipline of Dating: Stage 1 -- Knowing Who You Are (Part 1)

Are you the man you want to see?Welcome to the Discipline of Dating series. If you haven’t read the brief introduction to what we’re doing here, read it before you continue.

Remember, this series is meant to give you ALL of the tools necessary to create dramatic results in your dating life.

Only one thing; you have to take action.

This piece will focus on Stage 1 of the Wingman Model we talked about yesterday.

Stage 1 is all about clarifying who you are, what you are, where you are now and where you want to be.

You’ll become aware of your body and the adjustments you’ll need to make to get to where you want to be.

You’ll be given action exercises that will help you understand who you are to the core.

Once you follow through with all the exercises and pass the checklist, you’ll be able to move on to Stage 2.