Now, it's time to start trying out what you've learned.Welcome to the Discipline of Dating series. If you haven’t read the introduction and started Stage 1, read those before you continue.
Remember, this series is meant to give you ALL of the tools necessary to create dramatic results in your dating life.
Only one thing; you have to take action.
This article will focus on the third and final Action Item of Stage 2 of the Wingman Model towards dating success.
Stage 2 is all about finding success and modeling it in a way that you can make your own.
Action Item #3: The Solo Experience
Now that you have a basic sense of what women are interested in, where they hang out and how you should be presenting yourself, it’s time to push you outside your comfort zone.
You probably have your favorite bars you like to go to -- and that’s fine -- but now it’s time to go somewhere you haven’t been.
Using the list you gathered of places to go to meet the women you like, pick one place and go there -- alone.
When you go there, picture what the guys in your group would do, how they would carry themselves, where they would stand and who would they talk to. Follow through and do as many of those things as possible -- the most important thing being talking to women.
This Action Item is specifically meant to push you to a limit you’ve never knew existed. You then open yourself to situations you may not have ever experienced in your life.
I can guarantee you’ll feel proud of yourself for doing something you once thought was impossible.
Potential Scenarios
An initial question guys will ask is “what if she asks, ‘Where are your friends?’”
This is what most guys will THINK women will ask them. Believe it or not, in the grand scheme of things, that question rarely gets asked unless you’re making them feel uncomfortable or they want you to leave.
In other cases, it’s never brought up -- because you’re too busy having good interactions with them.
If you’re not sure how to answer if it comes up, you can make a joke out of it and say something like, “Friends? I don’t have friends?” or “I was renting a friend-for-hire over there and my time ran up.” The cheesier, the better - of course smiling about it.
At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what you say. What are important are you focus on being present and shifting the conversation away from irrelevant details such as where your friends are.
The truth is, you’ll feel weird about it -- especially if you’ve never gone out by yourself before. And there are people out there who will try to put you down for making attempts to connect with people.
It’s easy for them to judge when they’re on the other side of the approach, but keep in mind: At one point, they were on your side -- and it wasn’t fun for them. When you push your comfort zone, you in turn will push other’s.
They’ll feel challenged and will resist as it’s a natural defensive mechanism we have as humans. It’s nothing personal so it’s imperative you resist the natural urge to hide in the corner after a failed interaction.
As you continue to push yourself in this experiment, you’ll begin to understand the importance of enjoying your own company, being comfortable in your own skin and honing your ability to share your positive qualities with others.
If you can’t enjoy yourself, how can you expect a woman to enjoy your company?
At the end of the night, go home and record everything (observations -- external/internal, interactions, thoughts, etc.) in your journal.
When you’re done, find another venue and repeat the process again.
So how do you know if you’re ready for Stage 3?
1. You’ve found a group of people who are great at meeting women and are willing befriend you.
2. You compile a list of all fashion, grooming and lifestyle qualities you would like to have that make the people in your group attractive.
3. You perform the Solo Experiment two times.
4. You have detailed information about models of success in your journal.
If you can check each of those points off, you are a rockstar.
I really hope you had fun with the Action Items. This particular one has been a life-changer for a lot of my clients as they ended up gaining new friends and breakthroughs out of the experiences.
At this point, you’ll appreciate the amount of work and development that is truly required to go from unsuccessful to successful in dating. For some, it can be quick and for others, it takes much longer.
Thanks for letting me share my knowledge as I want to help as many of you as possible.
We have someone special coming up but in the meantime, if you’re interested in direct strategic consulting, you can check out what services are available in your area.
There’s nothing I’d want more than to help you get to the level you want when it comes to meeting and attracting the quality women you want in your life.
Next week, we'll get into Stage 3, where we'll create YOUR system for success in dating.