Men will do or say anything to give them an excuse why something isn’t possible. Part of my job is to prove them wrong. Thank goodness there is data our there from surveys and online interactions to help my cause. This one comes from Maxim Magazine as they surveyed almost 8,000 women from across the country. Still skeptical? Think of it in numbers:
While in transit back to New York City, I get time to reflect on how my clients are doing and what they are experiencing when they go out. This particular weekend, I was working with clients who were slightly older than me. As you get older, the club scene no longer suits you. Now that quality becomes the name of the game, how do you go about finding that quality? And even when you do, how do you acclimate yourself into these new environments without coming off creepy or feeling weird? It can be a simple process with research, practice and repetition. But this particular weekend, something stood out to more than usual.
How come it’s so hard to find quality - specifically quality men - in your area?
This is a guest post written by Sara Sharnoff. Sara is currently finishing her Masters Degree in Family Therapy at the University of Massachusetts Boston. After years of feeling let down because her life did not resemble a John Hughes movie, Sara decided to devote her time to studying couples and intimate relationships. During her free time she loves to drink copious amounts of coffee, cheer on the Boston Celtics, and explore the gorgeous sights in New England. She's here to share her perspective on relationships.
A few months ago, the beautiful Angelina Jolie told Germany’s Das Neue Magazine, “I doubt that fidelity is absolutely essential for a relationship," and continued, “It's worse to leave your partner and talk badly about him afterwards." It is difficult to imagine wanting to explore outside relationships when your significant other is Brad Pitt, but perhaps Ms. Jolie has a point. After all, Angelina and Brad have been a couple since 2005 and are currently raising six children together, which by Hollywood standards is a massive success.
After taking a week to recover from SXSW and from moving locations to a nicer space in NYC, it's time to give some quick advice.
Lately, I've been getting clients who keep wondering why women have been rejecting them so often. The problem with some men is they think one sign of niceness will be enough to get the date - or in some cases, the girl.
For example, an actual text conversation:
Man: "Hey! How are you doing? Hope you had a great weekend."
Woman: "Thanks! It was pretty chill. Just me and the girlies."
Man: "Sounds like fun! Want to get together for drinks this week?"
Woman: "Sorry, I have class then work all day."
Man: "No worries! What about earlier in the week?"
Woman: "Not sure. Might be busy still but I'll let you know."
Do you think she's going to reach out to him? Probably not. A woman is not going to buy into you selling if she doesn't see your value. You have to develop a comfortable rapport with her filled with value (help, sympathy or enlightenment), humor and some hints of flirtation (sexual tension) in order to get her thinking about you in that way. Just because you may have done something nice, doesn't mean the next line out of your mouth should be you asking her out.
Women can sniff this out from a mile away and their defenses are already up, anticipating this. STOP going for the hard sell and actually take time to build a different type of relationship. Do this right and she'll want to buy, no matter what you're selling.
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Promotion starts this Saturday (March 12th).
As we prepare for an amazing SXSW and wind down from the launch of the Wingman University Online Membership Program, I wanted to share some quick thoughts on the guide.
Remember when I declared 2011 the Year of the Hustle? I meant it. But just because you didn't start when I started, or when your friend did, doesn't mean it's too late for you to start.
Sometimes you just can't get started when you'd like to. And that's ok. I would rather you be ready to go now and able to put in 1000% effort than to take on the added responsibility, knowing you have other things that will take away from that 1000%. The only way you'll reap the benefits is if you fully devote yourself to it.
Here's the full overview of the 4-week Dating & Lifestyle Kickstart Guide, so you don't have to look for it.
This is a series of videos talking about appropriately dressing your age and the effect it has on attracting women.
How to Dress Your Age: 20s
How to Dress Your Age: 30s
Today's focus is on men in their 30s.
Wingtips are back! These next few videos will talk about appropriately dressing your age and the effect it has on attracting women. Today's focus is on men in their 20s.
One of the sexiest scenes in movie history is the opening sequence between Meg Ryan and Andy Garcia in When a Man Loves a Woman. For those of you who have not seen the film, it begins with Andy Garcia’s character picking up Meg Ryan’s character in a bar. After a few minutes of some sexy banter, (spoiler alert!) the audience realizes that they are actually a couple. And that Andy Garcia looks very good in a pilot uniform, but that is beside the point.
The Vault will be quiet for a week or two while we go through some changes and release the Wingman University Online Program. We're really excited to bring something new to the market and want it to be exceptionally great!
In the meantime, if you want to get more information and know about the release of the program, I suggest you sign up for the Wingman Labs, as I'll be giving special content to the members of the Labs for the next week or so.
I hope you enjoyed the Dating and Lifestyle Kickstart Guide and if you have any questions or comments, please feel free to leave some below or send us an email.
Til next week, keep it simple.