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Monday Maverick: Get Rejected

Get used to this. It'll help you become more attractive.Every Monday I’ll be giving tips on different perspectives on dating that will “free Your mind.” Like a true Maverick, I’ll give an unorthodox approach to everyday scenarios that will help you in your dating life and potentially beyond.

"Get recjected every chance you get."

While my clients are focued on being more successful in attracting women, I always encourage to push themselves as hard as they can.

Things are going well? Keep pushing forward.

The trouble with this concept is some people haven't had enough success in their lives to take those kinds of risks.

How A Client Helped Me "Get Lucky"

This is Week 3 of the 2011 Dating and Lifestyle Kickstart Guide. Thursdays, we cover the dating aspect. If you missed it, here is week one's dating component. Here is week two.

I want to share something awesome that got lost in the fray. I helped a friend, Tim, on Twitter, who was also a client of mine, handle some important issues in his life. My advice, combined with his action, did so well for him, he was willing to pay for another client’s session with me.

And after working with the Alex for an hour, this is what he had to say shortly after,

Let Her Tell You "No"

I love it when people tell me “no.” When I hear “no,” I smile. Why? Because I know that I haven’t gained or lost anything. I am also secure about my value to society so I know I will not be told no to all the time. I remember in my past, there were plenty of people who have told me “yes” and through that, I know someone else will say “yes.” Someone else will take the chance. Someone else will go all-in for me. 

And they will win.

See that quote on the cup? Let me type it again for you to see.

"The world bursts at the seams with people ready to tell you you're not good enough. On occasion some may be correct. But do not do their work for them. Seek any job; ask anyone out; pursue any goal. Don't take it personally when they say "no" - they may not be smart enough to say "yes"." - Keith Olbermann

It’s true for us, guys. There is always a woman who may look like you’re not good enough for. In some cases, it’s probably true. What she may be looking for is something either she doesn’t see in you or you probably don’t offer. And that’s fine. But you’re not going to know that unless you ask. Let her GIVE you a reason why it’s a “no” instead of just not trying and ASSUMING it’s a “no.”

That’s why I always say to ask out EVERY hot girl.

Rejection is a part of life and it’s certainly a part of dating. Women are going to tell you “no” more than “yes.” The “yeses” are those you want to focus on. And maybe Olbermann is right. Maybe a woman may not realize that it’s YOU she’s looking for.

When a woman tells you no, smile, say it’s great meeting her and move right along.

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The A-Rod Syndrome of Dating

This post was inspired by a conversation I had today with Single City Guy. You should check out his blog. He’s a great guy trying to make it in the interesting world of dating.

So, you feel like you’re a quality guy. You have the confidence to walk up to most women and start conversation. You can make her smile, laugh and feel comfortable around you quite easily. You feel like you’ll definitely get her number and even a date. She seems to love everything that you’re saying. Then, out of nowhere, it happens.

 

She walks away.

It almost seems like a dream. Just a few seconds ago, you two seemed to be sharing something special together and you definitely saw that interaction going somewhere much further than what actually happened. Most guys don’t even realize what they did wrong. Others may know and not know what to do about it. In the end, it comes to one simple thing that most guys are afraid of doing.

Closing. Sealing the deal. Getting the digits. Finalizing the transaction.

Whatever you want to call it, you still never do it. You’re so engrossed in conversation (which is not necessarily a bad thing) that you are unaware that it can end at any moment. You also could be even MORE afraid of getting that “brutal” rejection when you ask to see them again. You need to be prepared to step up to the plate and take the risk. It was just as much of a risk when you approached her, so why not go all the way?

Alex Rodriguez is the perfect comparison. For years, the man has dominated Major League Baseball’s regular season, putting up ridiculous numbers. He has even been the Most Valuable Player of the American League and everything, carrying his team to the playoffs. Then, when the playoffs came around, he would go missing. He put up the worst statistics (pretty much in history) of anyone of that caliber. People gave him so much grief, saying that he couldn’t perform under that pressure; he’ll never come through and whatever else you can describe being a failure at crunch time. Until, he were to come through, that was always going to be how people would describe him.

“He’s cool, but…”

“Yeah, he’s great, but…”

“He good, but he’s not clutch.”

Then, in this year’s playoffs, A-Rod finally came through. He put up monstrous numbers as he carried the New York Yankees to their 100000th championship (this will probably be the first and last time that I mention the New York Yankees on this blog).

That’s what you need to do. You need to step up and make it happen. Stop fearing the rejection and make the move. If you don’t, you’ll actually have an even worse feeling – one of regret, not knowing what could have happened. And let me tell you something, there’s nothing that will eat away at someone’s confidence more than constant regret.

Keep pushing and be your own Mr. October.

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E & O and a Little Bit of PR

How do you build loyalty in a world of infidelity and infinite choice? Well when it comes to dating, I talk a little bit of PR.

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