How to Not Be Needy

One request I’ve been getting recently is to share more of my personal life in posts like I used to back in the day.

The truth is even though my life has progressed beyond my wildest dreams, I’m always looking to understand and improve myself as a man, friend, and future husband.

Being in the relationship I’m in feels amazing. However, every day is a new day for me. The experiences I go through each day are unlike anything I’ve ever gone through. My responsibilities, expectations, social skills, and so much more are constantly evolving.

So how do I handle it all without screwing things up?

How to Meet People at the Airport

How to Meet People at the Airport

Did you know there are dating sites for people who want to meet at the airport?

I’m not exactly sure how it works but it just shows how easy -- or difficult -- it is to meet someone.

Let me explain.

For most travelers, as much as they jet-set across the world for business or pleasure, a good amount of their time is spent in the airport.

And regardless of your situation, you have a very good chance of meeting someone at the airport -- you just need to know how. Consider the problem solved as I will share my best advice for how to make it happen.

What Started It All

Stephen Covey, author the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, passed away yesterday at the age of 79.

If you know my story, you know his book was the one that sparked my passion for personal development.

This book taught me so much about the standards I must have for myself and others.

It also taught me how to effectively communicate, not only with women, but with anyone I interact with.

Essentially, this book was a game-changer for me.

How Leadership Can Make You More Attractive

If you want to have women gravitate toward you in a way that seems almost effortless, leadership is the answer. 

You see, leadership is an “intangible” quality few men possess and women find this quality especially attractive.

But it’s gets better:

What if I showed you how to have leadership qualities to attract more women?

Read on.

How To Stop Being Negative

Your goddamn negativity, No one needs it. Editor's Note: This piece is by Nick Notas, our Boston Wingman Strategist and Confidence Coach. You can read more of his pieces at The Dating Specialist.

“God I hate BMW drivers!” “My ex-girlfriend was a crazy bitch.“ “Most people are just jerks anyway.” “I’m so miserable at my job.”

No woman wants to hear you complain — it’s unattractive. You’re shooting yourself and your chances in the foot.

It’s no surprise women are in tune with their emotions. Negative energy is the last thing you want to her to feel when getting to know you.

She’s bound to associate you with all those bad emotions and you will make her uneasy. How do you think she’ll react if you’re dwelling on depressing topics?

Instead, follow these tried and true guidelines to keep your cool and make the best out of your interactions with women.

My Dad's Dating Advice

Read below to find out how you can win this.I was 15 years old when my dad gave me the first dose of dating advice. 

“Make sure you wear a helmet.”

At that age, my mind was in the gutter -- and I adhered. Nearly 12 years later, after the journey I've gone improving my confidence around women, I’m fairly certain he meant for me to literally wear one around women.

Giving advice and answers on the more sensitive topics were among the many responsibilities of my dad.

Other responsibilities included, teaching me to tie a tie, educating me on alcohol, teaching me to drive, making me watch sports and pushing me in academics, just to name a few.

For my dad, all he wanted me to do is be as knowledgable as possible, know how to take care of myself and live a better life than he did. He thought that was the perfect foundation to build for the next generation.

I'd like think he did a good job as I am not a total delinquent.

But what being a dad means has evolved over the years.

The Afterglow

Hey, now.Partnering with Durex last week was a lot of fun.

Although Twitter decided to have it’s biggest outage in its history, the “Sexfluencers” (Health, Love, and Sex editor at BlogHer, A.V. Flox; dating blogger Miss Taylor Cast and my fiancée, Laurie) and I had an awesome Twitter party answering your questions about all things sex and over-sharing in the social web.

In true Wingman style, I helped set the mood during the outages with some “sexytime” music. I kicked off with Al Green’s “Let’s Stay Together,” which was chosen using Durex’s song generator as me and Laurie’s love-making tune.

Later that night, we partied it up in NYC -- see the Kiss Cam, filled with condoms, ladies and the celebs that rocked the house (Ice T!). 

And, I also got to try out their latest products that were designed to keep you in sync with your partner, in my case, my fiancée.

Apparently for some people, climaxing at the same time is the holy grail of sex -- and it’s rarer than getting struck by lightning. Personally, although it’s awesome, it’s not the end all.

Let's Talk About Sex

It’s rare we talk about sex here, but I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t important to any physical connection. All the flirting has to lead somewhere, right?

When clients and I discuss the “taboo” topic, I do give quality advice for getting down under the sheets...or on the couch...or wherever you choose to “get down.”

But what about the how to? Some clients who talk with me about it have issues with timing, the best practices for initiating sex, and other things such as best time of the day, how often, and how long.

5 Ways to NOT Be Creepy

Don't be this guy.Editor's Note: This piece is by Nick Notas, our Boston Wingman Strategist and Confidence Coach. You can read more of his pieces at The Dating Specialist.

Once a woman has filed you under creepy, it’s damn near impossible to change her mind.

When meeting a woman, it’s important she’s comfortable because if she feels nervous, it’ll put her on the defensive.

That’s why I’m such a huge advocate of making the best first impression possible.

Most times, conveying you’re a normal guy is as simple as avoiding some common mistakes.

Below are five ways you can make sure your interactions start on the right foot.