#wingtip | How to Find Love on Twitter

Here, I answer a question off of Formspring. Here's what she wrote:

"Say you are following someone on Twitter and overtime you start to have a little feelings or curiosity develop and want get to know them better. How can do that tactfully, if you're a female?"

What are your thoughts on the matter?

If you'd like to ask me a question, what are you waiting for?

Creating A Unique Style

NOTE: Blank Label is a new sponsor of The Professional Wingman.

Remember the days of “peacocking?” Guys dressing ridiculously just to get attention from women? The crazy thing was it worked until women caught on. Today, there are enough holidays and theme parties to wear those things you thought were socially appropriate. So why not do some homework and find out what actually makes man stand out from his pack?

I remember over a year and a half ago, I put out a blog post about finding good shirts. It was a great post for someone who was looking to get a basic idea as to what to wear and how to find things that worked for them.

In the age of purchasing clothes online from places like Zappos, Amazon and eBay, why not order customized shirts? Think about it. You would essentially be the only person to have the shirt. Imagine a wardrobe filled with customized shirts that no one else can buy in stores or replicate. Pretty cool, huh?

I introduce to you, Blank Label.

Instead of explaining it in words, Molly from DemoGirl.com was awesome enough to do a video of ordering a shirt on BL. Enjoy. PS - Who’s that guy in the pink shirt on the home page?

The shirts use quality material, fit REALLY well, are durable and inexpensive, compared to other custom shirts. I personally have two shirts from BL, one that I have worn on a recent episode of LoveNation.

 

I’d like to get you in on the fun so I’d like to offer you a 20% discount for first-time buyers. Just enter the code wingman at checkout and you’re good to go!

I’d love to see designs you’ve made! Also, be sure to check out the newly-designed Blank Label blog for updates, special announcements and information.

What You Can Learn From Tiger Woods

Tiger Woods had the best influence in the world. His father. Tiger could do no wrong and he knew exactly what he needed to do. If everything failed, he had the best support group in his dad. When his father passed away, it seemed everything changed.

Tiger lost his way. He had no one else to seek guidance from. There was no influence in his life able to help him stay the course. Since then, he led a second life. A life that his father would have been ashamed of. And although Tiger isn’t the poster boy for anything dating-related, there is something you can learn from him as he makes his return to golf in 2 weeks.

The value of true resilience and focus.

Tiger had to go through a lot because of his infidelity - certainly deserved what he had to go through. His time away from golf - from life - will show if he’s back on the right track. But Tiger has gone through adversity many times before - mostly on the golf course. If I were him, there would be a few things I’d keep in my head as I make my comeback to being arguably the best athlete in the world.

What did dad used to tell me? I’m sure losing your father is tough. My father is currently going through some tough times and I’m not too sure what I’ll do when the day comes for him to move on. Thinking about that is difficult so I can only imagine what Tiger must think when thoughts of his dad run through his head. But still, Tiger’s father’s words will last forever and they were Tiger’s true inspiration. What were the words of your inspiration? Never lose track of that and continue to use it as motivation.

Create a new support group. You’re as great as the people you’re around the most. Clearly, the people he hung out with were ok with his immoral actions. You can come up with these ideas/actions on your own but whether he likes to admit it or not, it takes other people to justify your actions. If there are people in your life who are steering you in the wrong direction, stop seeing those people and reach out to people who lead the life you would like to live now.

Refocus on what made you dominate in [insert activity here]. Remember when Tiger first popped into the scene? He had focus unlike anyone else. No one could touch him. If you were paired with him on the final day, you were screwed. What was his focus? What was his drive? What did he have to prove? Those are things he should think about. In the end, those ideas, thoughts, and actions are what’s going to put him back at the top. His state of mind when he first showed up on tour is exactly what he needs to have from this day forward. You need to figure out the same thing. What state of mind puts you at your best?

As you can see, lifestyle is VERY important and can impact other parts of someone’s life, quite easily. Adjusting your lifestyle and you’re state will get you back on track and focused.

To Answer Your Question

First of all, I want to thank you for all of the great comments I've received about the site. Some of you are VERY good in knowing where the company is going. I'm excited and thankful for the support. I've been getting a lot of emails asking about the whole "Apply Now" button that's on my front page. Most of them are along the lines of, "Why do people need to apply now?"

The answer is quite simple: I have a waiting list.

It's pretty crazy to think that one would even exist but it's been a pretty demanding year so far. I want to help EVERYONE. And I plan to do so.

Through this system, having people apply is the easiest way for me to keep track of who has contacted me and what exactly they are looking for. As I expand, I'll be able to accommodate more clients but for now, the list has to exist.

But don't worry, I actually am close to hiring another wingman which means more people to coach. It's still not too late to apply. The deadline for submitting applications is March 26.

4 Reasons Why Speed Dating is Cool

After hosting a speed dating event over the weekend, it reminded me of how speed dating can be another great way to meet women and get dates. After talking with various people and listening in on their opinions, I’ve decided to point out 4 great reasons why speed dating is cool and I give 4 tips that will give you an advantage when going to one.

1. Many beautiful women speed date. The way the media portrays speed dating is only half true. They only talk about the bad parts of speed dating, which can actually happen. On the other side, there are REALLY gorgeous AND normal women who participate in speed dating, which leads to my next reason.

2. The underdog gets a chance. Because it’s speed dating and you HAVE to see everyone, everyone gets an equal chance. You may not be as good-looking as the next guy but you still have a chance to earn a date with your humor, intelligence and charm.

3. People come from everywhere. Over the weekend, I talked with people from nearly every end of Massachusetts. Most people commute to Boston because they work there and these are the only times they have to do anything remotely social in the city (to be read “they haven’t found a reason/person as an excuse to come to Boston so they’re trying their luck with this.”).

4. It can build your confidence. Speed dating is actually fun. In a matter of an hour, you can meet and talk with as much as 10 women. No matter who they are, you can have 10 interactions under your belt and chances are you will have someone interested in contacting you after the event.

Now, here are 4 tips to help you max your experience.

1. Know what you’re looking for. Do you want to just go on a date? Are you looking for a hookup? Are you looking for a relationship? Just having an idea of what you want will make your approach different and keep you focused on what’s important.

2. This still is not the time to do “the interview.” Just because there’s only a little bit of time for each, doesn’t mean that you have to go in there and ask a list of questions. Treat it just like any other interaction. Have fun, ask a few questions, share some laughs and build momentum. If you two are having fun, you won’t want the alarm to sound and it’ll be easier to get her to check “yes” next to your name.

3. Don’t compare women by looks, but by the content. It’s very easy to get lost in a woman’s looks but there’s no time for that. You only have 4-5 minutes. Listen to what she says, see if it holds value to you and if it does, use it as a small catalyst for the other potentials. Sometimes, you never know what you actually want until you meet that person that has it. Pay attention.

4. Be selective. Some guys think by selecting every woman, they’re guaranteed a date. That is actually the wrong way of thinking. Be realistic about it and don’t give the women you’re not interested in false hope - it makes you look bad and hurts the good faith women have in men. Pick the women you’d actually want to reach out to because when you get back your mutual matches, you’ll know there’s a chance of it actually going somewhere.

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