This is part 4 of a special 5-part series that talks about how to be an amazing wingman, written by my newest Wingman. if you know someone that would want to read this, Like and share on Facebook, Twitter, etc. I think everyone can benefit from these solid tips. Here is the previous entry to the series.
Wingmanship 101: Introduction
Wingmanship 102: What a Wingman SHOULD Do
Wingmanship 103: What a Wingman Should NOT Do
Wingmanship 104: Advanced Wingman
Next Level…
This is part 3 of a special 5-part series that talks about how to be an amazing wingman, written by my newest Wingman. if you know someone that would want to read this, Like and share on Facebook, Twitter, etc. I think everyone can benefit from these solid tips. Here is the previous entry to the series.
Wingmanship 101: Introduction
Wingmanship 102: What a Wingman SHOULD Do
Wingmanship 103: What a Wingman Should NOT Do
Things NOT to do as a wingman:
DO NOT: Talk too much to your wingman.
You are OUT! That means you should talk to NEW girls. Too often I see two guys talking to each other in a bar most of the time because they are trying to look cool while attempting to escape the uncomfortable reality of walking up to a stranger and starting a conversation. (which if you think about it, isn’t so bad anyway.) Don’t talk to your buddy. Talk to GIRLS! Then go talk to more girls.
Feel free to vibe with your buddy, have a great time no doubt! Get emotionally pumped up and live it up! But.... don't talk to him the whole time, go meet some chicks! Don't talk about “game” when you are out, and you don't need his permission to go talk to a chick. Instead of talking to him about talking to a girl you would like to talk to, STOP and just go talk to her.
DO NOT: Fight over 1 girl.
Do you know how many people there are in the world? There are almost 7 billion. Why do you need to fight with your friend over one? Most of the time when this happens, neither of you get laid! Teamwork fellas! Sometimes it is helpful to decide beforehand which one you each will go after. The caveat being, it is somewhat important to see how the girls react to you before putting all your proverbial eggs in one basket.
DO NOT: Talk to your wing when he is talking to a girl.
No one cares if you are bored or uncomfortable, go spit some game on your own, your wing is putting in work and doesn’t need you to come in and mess it up. Leave him be.
DO NOT: Ignore, insult or deliberately lower the value of your wing.
Not only is this unacceptable behavior from a friend, but it really makes YOU look bad to whoever you are talking to. Why would you care about some strangers opinions more than the opinion of your friend? Is it just because they are girls? If so, that is really lame. You should like your wingman, and desire for him and you to succeed. Why would you hang around someone if you don’t like them? These are questions the people you are talking to will ask themselves if they see you being a dick to your friend.
In "104," we will go to the next level with some really advanced "wingman" techniques.
This is part 2 of a special 5-part series that talks about how to be an amazing wingman, written by my newest Wingman. if you know someone that would want to read this, Like and share on Facebook, Twitter, etc. I think everyone can benefit from these solid tips. Here is the previous entry to the series.
Wingmanship 101: Introduction
Wingmanship 102: What a Wingman SHOULD Do
Things to do as a wingman:
Talk to people.
Open up NEW sets of people and start conversation, then introduce your wingman. Give him a good introduction. Sometimes you can go over the top and state how awesome he is, but other times it’s nice just to say his name and let him show his value for himself. Really cool people don’t need to tell everyone they are awesome.
At some point, tell the group or person of interest something interesting about him, perhaps something he might be bashful to tell himself. This works particularly well for certain issues; money, fame or accomplishments would sound like bragging if he said them himself and even then they might take a while to come up in conversation naturally. However, you can include his accolades in the introduction or later in the conversation, and demonstrate how high of value your wingman happens to be. Also, at a club, it is important to say how he is a normal person. Grounding stories can do wonders for the later stages of the game...
Help with logistics, “taking one for the team.”
It’s on between your buddy and his girl. She is really hot, and they have been talking all night. Unfortunately that girl is out with a friend, and for whatever reason, she feels the need to talk about her 9 cats, also her breath smells like a toilet at a rest stop. Also, she may be unattractive. So, hopefully you have some semblance of standards and you two haven’t hit it off.
Now I’m not saying you have to hook up with “cat girl,” but you do owe it to your wing to attempt to keep her occupied so that she doesn’t blow up the whole thing. Now if your buddy is super smooth, he may not even need you here, BUT you should make every effort to help bring them along to the final destination (your wing and his girl to wherever he wants to take her). If you can get them there, and let’s say you are in the living room with stink breath, your work is pretty much over. Just try to be really boring and maybe stink breath will fall asleep and you can slip out the back door. Your buddy owes you one.
There are some other ways in which you can help "take one for the team"
For this next part I cite Rob Judge, a dating coach in NYC who has given me permission to pass on his words of wisdom on…Taking One For The Team
"Sometimes, however, a friend will not “play ball” with your wing. Maybe she’s jealous of her friend, has a serious boyfriend, or simply is not in the mood to meet guys. Regardless, your wing should read the situation and back off. He should try to minimize the resistance your girl’s friend may exert on you and your girl. He can do this by saying something like, “Hey look, I think you’re a cool girl, but I can see we’re not as into each other as our friends. So let’s just hang out and not feel awkward or feel like we need to be all over each other. But also, let’s give our friends space to get to know each other, too. They really seem to like each other. How long have you known your friend for?” From there, your wing should casually drop in some details that let’s her friend know you are a normal, safe guy (e.g. he should mention your job, education, where you live, your relationship with your family, etc.)."
Wow, great advice, Rob (Check out his site at Datehottergirls.com). I can see how you are turning the negativity into neutrality because instead of butting heads, you are both now agreeing to set up your friends. Neutralizing "mother hen" watching over her little chicks, THIS is the way to help your friend.
In the next entry, "103," we'll get into what you SHOULDN'T be doing as a wingman.
This is special 5-part series that talks about how to be an amazing wingman, written by my newest Wingman. if you know someone that would want to read this, Like and share on Facebook, Twitter, etc. I think everyone can benefit from these solid tips. So without further ado...
What is a good wingman?
- A good wingman is always there for you
- Pulls you back up if you get rejected harshly
- Will “take one for the team”
- Helps to facilitate every step of the process logistically
- Will only have good things to say about you. He is also quite capable of getting women himself.
- Has superior social skills, and is able to talk to random strangers of either sex at ease.
- Will vibe with you and help you to reach peak (emotional) state
- Will have fun, mess around and provide fun for the nights that are “off”
Right off the bat, and I shouldn’t even need to say this, but never, EVER be negative towards your wingman in an ATTEMPT to LOOK COOL in front of a new group. These RANDOM people that you JUST MET, should not be more important than a good friend. And even if you don’t particularly like your wingman, it makes you look better to be friends with a cool guy than a loser.
Stay tuned for "102" where you'll find out what you should be doing as a wingman.
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