This is the last part of a 3-part series by Sinn. He is really good at explaining things - especially lifestyle. I have never seen him at a workshop but I can just tell by the way he talks that he looks to be an exceptional teacher. When I get a chance, I'll post the other 2 parts which are VERY important. If I am not mistaken they have to do with the things you do and the people you know. But for now, enjoy this nugget.
Today I want to finish up my 3 part article on Lifestyle with an article on The Places you go.
We've already talked about Lifestyle Design and The People You Know.
Now we want to talk about the places you will be going.
You want to have a variety of places you go, where you can either meet or bring women you're interested in.
Generally you should have at least 3 different places that you can meet women.
I like to meet girls at bars, coffee shops, and at the gym.
I can also bring dates to all 3 of these places to socially proof myself with the people that work there.
This brings us to the second point of places you go. Social proof and high status treatment.
When I lived in Dallas, there were 3 different bars within 5 blocks of my apartment where I could skip lines, and get free drinks.
This happened because I went to these bars multiple times a week for a variety of different reasons. On the weekends, I would go there to pick up girls, on weekdays I would go there with girls I was seeing or on dates, Sometimes I would just go there to eat some appetizers and chat with the staff.
The point is you want to be seen a lot.
One mistake guys make when they are trying to network or get "hooked up" is they ask for names too early. You don't want to look like you're desperately trying to make friends with the bartender as that can be transparent.
Also make sure to tip well early on. You don't have to keep tipping that well but you should always leave more than 15% for bartenders.
Another thing you can do to stand out is order the same drink every time. I personally drink Vodka Diet Coke which is not particularly common. At least not for dudes ☺ Don't do anything cheesy like ask for the "usual" .but if you do this right, the bartenders should ask you if you want your drink a few weeks in.
You also want to make sure that you bring girls around these places as much as possible. As silly as it sounds word does get around bars and regulars do exist. The more people are talking about how you're always in there with different girls, the easier it will be to get special treatment and sleep with members of the bar staff...
Lastly you want to make sure that you befriend the regulars.
I used to do this all wrong. Early on in my "pick up career" I would identify other guys at the bar that were naturals and try to "out game" them. This was really immature and actually hurt my success in the venue. In bars, clubs, coffee shops, gyms, etc... There are always regulars. People you are going to see OVER and OVER again. You want to make the best possible impression with these people. The more they like you, the more they will help you in a variety of ways.
The first way regulars can help you is by providing you with a home base. When you're out alone, or with a date, you can always stop by and chat with some of the regulars. It helps you with social proof on dates, and helps get you warmed up and talkative when you are out alone.
The second way that getting to know regulars helps you is through make shift social circles. Regulars often have friends who come out every once in awhile, oftentimes these friends are attractive women from out of town looking to party that night. An introduction goes a long way in that situation.
You can reap similar benefits in coffee shops, yoga classes, and gyms as well.
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