No, this is not an instructional post about fire safety. But I will use the same principles to apply to dating, meeting people and life in general.
Living in such a fast-paced world, we get caught up so much in out lives that we never really take the time to slow down and enjoy the moment. Basically, our day lives are so jam-packed with duties, responsibilities that are time-sensitive that we carry that time-first mindset into our night lives. Clearly this can be read as not being able to loosen up in a more relaxed environment and lower your perceived value to people. I know that you are loosey-goosey and you want to try to show it to people when you’re out in social environments. But why does it have to stay in your night life? Why not use this all the time? So, I say, stop, drop and roll.
Stop. Whenever you feel as though things are just going way too fast, just stop everything. Take a second to reflect and catch up and get yourself together. There is nothing wrong with slowing things down and managing things in your time. It is your life. You’re allowed to do whatever you want with it. That includes simple things like slowing down your walk, your speech, general hand gestures, and other things. After a while, you’ll notice that the world around you will slow down too, allowing you to be better at making clearer decisions and leaving less of a chance for hiccups.
Drop. When you are out there, it’s ok to drop your guard. No one is out to attack you. No one knows you, really (except for your friends and you don't have your guard up for them, right?) And who knows what would happen if you open your self up to people. Every minute that goes on in your life you have the chance to make a connection with someone and potentially change either her (or his) life…or your own. In such a competitive world, it’s so natural to always be trying to get a leg up on someone else for your own success. Well in the bar, no one is trying to get a leg up on anyone else, so you don’t have to worry about that. Allow yourself to be a little vulnerable. People like that and will respond to that.
Roll. This is my favorite. When you are out there doing whatever it is that you do, just roll with it. Life is so much fun and if you just allow yourself to roll with where is goes (while still being within control, of course) you are going to open yourself up to so many opportunities. Whether it’s meeting women, making business deals, working at your job or just living life, it’s all about, going with the flow, rolling with the punches and just rolling with “it.”
I always use these principles when things may get a little overwhelming for me. It’s important to stop to collect yourself, open yourself to opportunities and just roll with it.
Ok, now I can contiinue my day peace, knowing that may have helped someone.