Monday Maverick: Get Rejected

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Get used to this. It'll help you become more attractive.Every Monday I’ll be giving tips on different perspectives on dating that will “free Your mind.” Like a true Maverick, I’ll give an unorthodox approach to everyday scenarios that will help you in your dating life and potentially beyond.

"Get recjected every chance you get."

While my clients are focued on being more successful in attracting women, I always encourage to push themselves as hard as they can.

Things are going well? Keep pushing forward.

The trouble with this concept is some people haven't had enough success in their lives to take those kinds of risks.

"I don't want to screw up a good thing," is typically what they will say.  

They just don't know what they're capable of -- and they care too much about what others think of them.

To change that particiular limiting belief, I ask them to get women to reject them -- as much as they can.

This doesn't seem to make sense since the main objective is to get a woman to be attracted you, doesn't it?

The Maverick: When you get rejected by many women, you are actually building your "rejection tolerance." The more you get rejected, the more you're used to it, the less you care about the outcome when you talk to women.

The kind of mentality will start to show through your body langauge and you'll look more relaxed and carefree -- two attractive qualities women look for and will allow to get past the initial approach.

I remember when I used to walk up to women and they would reject me. It sucked (a TON) at first and then in my frustration, it occurred to me.

Rejection wasn't something I wasn't used to receiving.

What I mean is although I've been rejected in my life by countless women, sprinked over the course of my life, I wasn't experiencing it enough for it to not phase me.

At that point, all I wanted was rejection. I became curious to the many ways women would reject me and I kept pushing myself to discover them all.

Eventually, I became so "numb" to it, that I just stopped caring about what others thought of me.

It became my biggest breakthrough at the time and it led me to bigger and better success from that point on.

If you are having issues with handling rejection, chances are, you aren't receiving it enough.

Michael Jordan said it best when he said, "I had to fail before I was able to succeed."

It's always better to know what NOT to do before you can understand -- and truly appreciate -- what to do.